Image of a woman surrounded by lines and question marks. Showing what it can feel like when you try to stop people-pleasing without the support of an online therapist in Illinois. Keep reading to learn more tips on how to stop being a people pleaser in Peoria or Springfield, IL.

Why Can I Not Stop People-Pleasing?

Those who struggle to stop people-pleasing often go through life feeling stressed with a neverending task list. They are waiting until things let up so they can take a break. But things don’t let up, and this waiting often leads to burnout and depression. When my clients first attempt to change their people-pleasing behavior, they…

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Image of a woman in a dark peach shirt holding her head. If you feel anxious like this about meeting with an online therapist in Illinois it doesn't have to be that way. You don't have to figure everything out on your own once you start online therapy. Address anxiety for perfectionists with online therapy in Northfield, Illinois.

Things to Do Before Meeting With An Online Therapist in Illinois

My clients already do a lot of work by the time they schedule their first appointment. They research anxiety to find new ways to treat it. They also read self-help books and try to live healthy lifestyles. But despite their knowledge and best efforts, they still find themselves in the anxiety and burnout cycle. They…

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Image of a black woman in an orange sweater with her hands up. Showing how hard idle time for stress relief in Springfield, IL can be. When this is the reaction to boredom and idle time them therapy for stress in Illinois with an online therapist can help.

Tips for Stress Relief From An Illinois Therapist

When I find myself stressed, I often wish I could freeze time. I want extra space to escape, catch up to the moment at my own pace, and recover without any negative consequences for anyone. Unfortunately, there is no magical time advantage like this to give us some stress relief. And no amount of efficiency…

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Back To The Basics of Stress Relief & Self-Care

Being an online therapist, I’m a big self-care advocate. However, I also have a history of overworking in all areas of life. I know the negative consequences of putting off my needs, so taking care of myself and not burning out has become a priority, and I have adopted some simple strategies to help with…

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How to Stop Being A People Pleaser

Some people-pleasing behavior is understandable. For example, using people-pleasing behavior with an unreasonable manager or boss can make sense if it means lessening your work stress or keeping your job. Not All People Pleasing Is Bad This form of people-pleasing behavior will be occasional and specific to a setting or person. Additionally, people-pleasing can prove…

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Self-Worth & Compassion in the Face of Anxiety & Perfectionism Pt. 4

In previous blogs, I introduce the connection between perfectionism and anxiety. As a perfectionism therapist, I also explain this connection as a fear of failure and the pain of not feeling good enough. I further show how my clients try to avoid the accompanying feelings of guilt and shame with procrastination. As well as how…

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Overworking Thanks To Perfectionism & Anxiety

This blog continues the series on the connection between anxiety and perfectionism. The first blog introduced the fear of failure. In the last blog, I wrote about how procrastination behaviors are hard to break, even when our beliefs and fears of failure change. In part three of this series, I will look at overworking and…

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How Procrastination Ties Into Perfectionism & Anxiety Pt. 2

In the last blog, I introduced one of the links between anxiety and perfectionism. Which was fear of failure, and how this fear plays out in our lives through overwork and procrastination. As well as how Here, I will continue with how procrastination is maintained and some ways to resist avoidance. My Battle With Perfectionism,…

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All About Perfectionism and Anxiety Pt.1

When the clients at Live Lekko struggle with perfectionism, they often are also suffering from anxiety. In this three-part blog series, I will introduce some of the connections between perfectionism and anxiety. With the hope that it will provide validation and support for those of you who are feeling similar symptoms. Anxiety symptoms are felt…

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