Many of my clients with histories of childhood emotional neglect often feel lonely in their marriages.
They also often struggle to acknowledge this loneliness. This confusion is easy to understand as loneliness can take on many forms. Below are some ways loneliness can show up in your relationship. I hope this helps you to identify loneliness in your marriage so you can begin to take the steps to heal.
Loneliness can leave you feeling empty. Despite having a partner, you feel like there is a void. Your relationship may even appear successful based on your achievements as a couple and the things you do together, but there is no emotional connection.
Loneliness can make you feel isolated even when physically around your spouse. You feel like you're living separate lives even when sharing the same house.
There's a longing for emotional connection and intimacy. You feel like strangers but long for closeness. You want to grow in your relationship. Before, you only imagined this intimacy was possible in books and movies. But now you see other couples experience a deep connection in their relationships that you want.
It's not uncommon to experience bouts of sadness when dealing with loneliness in your marriage. If you've felt a lack of connection for some time, you may also begin to experience grief over the state of your relationship.
You might start feeling frustrated with your partner over unmet emotional needs. Bitterness and resentment can also begin to brew. Especially if you're to create change in your relationships and your partner is not receptive.
A Sense of Abandonment:
Loneliness can make you feel abandoned if your partner doesn't share your relationship concerns. Without change, this sense of abandonment can lead to insecurity and anxiety.
Loneliness often coincides with breakdowns in communication. You might struggle to express your feelings about this lack of connection to your partner. When you try, the conversation is unproductive and leads to arguments about other things.
Loneliness can also show up in physical symptoms. As this loneliness grows and occupies more of your attention throughout the day, it can manifest as fatigue, sleep issues, headaches, and changes in appetite.
Doubt and Uncertainty:
When you experience loneliness in your relationship, you may question whether your partner loves you. Doubt and uncertainty can erode your sense of security and make you wonder about the future of your relationship.
Some people respond to loneliness by withdrawing emotionally or physically from their partner. When a person experiences loneliness and communication isn't working, it's easy to question if there's something wrong with you. This withdrawal can further exacerbate the emotional distance in the relationship.
Loss of Interest:
You might start to lose interest in your partner. When a relationship lacks emotional connection, one can resign to the idea that there won't be any change. My clients want to avoid settling for a lonely marriage. They want a relationship where both individuals grow, and the marriage thrives.
Begin Therapy for Childhood Emotional Neglect in Mahomet, IL
If you are ready to address loneliness in your marriage further, call or text for a therapy appointment today. As a therapist, I would be happy to offer support from my Mahomet, IL-based practice to repair your relationship and overcome stress. You can start your therapy journey by following these simple steps:
- Contact us by calling or texting 217-402-7817
- Schedule your first appointment at my Illinois-based practice to address overworking
- Start feeling more connected in your relationship!
Other Services Offered With Live Lekko
Therapy for childhood emotional neglect isn't the only service I offer. I'm happy to offer a variety of services to provide you with mental health support. The mental health services I offer include therapy for people pleasing, counseling for women, and grief and loss counseling. I also offer therapy for stress. Whether you are in Peoria, Springfield, Mahomet, or somewhere in between in Illinois I can help with teletherapy. Feel free to visit my blog for more helpful information.